Robin Hilton Bowden
Tantric Sexuality + Jade Egg Coach
Desire Map/Fire Starter Sessions Facilitator
Yoga Instructor and Co Owner of Queen City Yoga
Owner of Indian Head Wellness Collective
My journey began when I walked into my first Women’s Studies class in University in 1993. At the time, I hadn’t picked a major and I was meandering through my second year of University with the clock counting down on making some decisions about my future.
About a half hour into the class, I knew my field of study would be feminist theory. I’d always had a penchant toward activism and Women’s Studies felt like home to me.
When Brittany asked me to write a piece for Chat’s with B – of course, I jumped at the opportunity. I find writing about who I am and what I do to be a wonderful exercise in clarity with the first realization being that I didn’t know where to begin my story. I decided to start at what feels like the beginning of the journey that has brought me to writing this piece today. Maybe it goes back further than this, but I think that monumental task of deciding what I was going to “do with my life” is a good place to begin sharing my life, passions and pleasures with you.
In 1998, I graduated from the University of Calgary with my Bachelor of Arts degree in Women’s studies and, like any good arts student, jumped right into a career of retail management putting my dreams of changing the world aside for a few years.
In 2002, my first daughter was born and in 2005 and 2007 my second and third arrived. After my third daughter was born, I began practicing yoga and took my yoga teacher training in 2010. Teaching yoga was truly a dream job for me leading me to open my own studio in Indian Head in 2014. In 2016, midway through my first offering of teacher training in the studio, I hit a level of burnout that had me doubting my future as a studio owner and yoga instructor.
At this time, my husband suggested I attend a yoga retreat to reconnect to the practice and my own passion for teaching. While at this retreat, I stayed at my sister’s house and was scrolling Facebook before bed when I came upon my future teacher, Layla Martin’s, YouTube channel. I normally scroll past this stuff, but this time I clicked in. This was in March and by June I had registered in her 600 hour Sex, Love and Relationship Coaching program. I’d finally come full circle to my initial desire to support women have healthier, happier, fuller lives! I’ve also found the foundation in academic study of Women’s and Gender issues has been a key piece in building the vision for the body based Tantric Sex Coaching work I do which has a wonderful balance between esoteric principles and hard science combining ancient Taoist and Tantric philosophy and practice with modern neuroscience, and psychology.
Today, I’m a Tantric Sexuality Coach and Jade Egg Coach for women. I support women to fully love their bodies, to erase shame around their sexuality and to guide them on a path to discovering their authentic sexual wholeness. I do this work through my online Jade Egg School and 1:1 coaching inside a program I call, “Wild + Divine”.
My work is inspired by the fluidity and ease through which I see fullness expressed in nature. A flower doesn’t have to think about blossoming, given the right conditions, it simply just happens. My job is to help women find the right conditions that will support their blossoming into their sexual fullness. What I’ve seen time and time again is that once a woman finds her sexual turn on, all aspects of her life that were stuck or stagnant begin to open up for her. She’s happier, more confident, and more fully alive inside her body.
I’ve had some incredible milestones in building my business over the past several years. Some of the big moments were when I graduated my first and second group of yoga teacher trainees. It always chokes me up to think that I was part of guiding these amazing humans on their path of teaching, and it’s incredibly exciting to witness their successes as teachers!
Other big moments were graduating from over 600 hours of training to become a certified Tantric Sex Coach and working with my first few clients and then seeing the profound transformation they were experiencing in their lives as a result of working with me.
A more recent exciting moment has been partnering up with one of the graduates from my first teacher training to create Queen City Yoga. This is a pop up yoga project in and around Regina that is filling my desire to create supportive, connected community through practice.
Of course, it’s not always been easy and I’ve had some really epic failures over the past few years as well. My most notable and upsetting failure was a big launch that I put together this past January for a coaching program to support women to feel comfortable being visible with their businesses. I checked all the boxes, and worked incredibly hard to create an offering that would sell out. The result? Not one sale. I was devastated! I felt like I might not be cut out to be a coach and went through some very difficult days. What helped me through were the very tools I was offering as part of the program. The irony wasn’t lost on me! I held myself compassionately for a few weeks and then recalibrated which led to my soul based offerings inside of Wild + Divine.
Wild + Divine is heavily based upon my own practices and is a practice based at its core. I believe that practice is the key to feeling like myself and staying connected to my vision, passion and purpose. I wake up at 4:30am almost every day to spend some time in contemplation or practice. I usually use that time for my sexual self practice, jade egg practice, yoga, meditation or breathwork. I follow my intuition and sometimes even find myself inspired to so some writing for my own blog during that time. The key piece is that I get up every day and I spend that time connecting to my body and to my heart. This is my sustenance for sure! I believe every entrepreneur needs this kind of ritual in order to remain balanced, in pleasure, and connected to herself.
When I feel depleted, when I feel uninspired - I look to my practices to pull me back to my passions. I allow for the natural ebb and flow of life to occur and I always make sure I get out in nature and breathe deeply. My inspiration always follows pleasure. When I’m in pleasure, the creativity flows easily and abundantly. I always honour feeling stuck, and know that it’s all part of nature to flow in and out of expansion and retraction. When I honour and love all parts of this amazing flow of life through my body - it feels like a big beautiful dance that pulls me along effortlessly. And when in doubt… having an orgasm or two always helps as well.
If you’d like to connect with me, or learn more about my work as a yoga instructor or a Tantric Sex Coach you can visit my website: http://robinjoy.ca I’m also on Instagram at @robinhiltonyoga or you can follow Queen City Yoga at @queencityogask