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The First 40 Days: Postpartum

The First 40 Days: Postpartum Plan

One evening early in our pregnancy I was beginning my preparation for our 120th-day celebration with kundalini and pregnancy which lead me into learning about the 40-day sadhana post childbirth. This of course lead me down a journey of discovering how interested I am about postpartum. Everything from nutrition, spiritual practices, the somatics, aura building, physically, mentally, and what we did years ago to support mama’s in our community. Many cultures share simple concepts around postpartum. Some call it “lying in” other call it “confinement”. Essentially this is a period of time where you do absolutely nothing but bond with your little one, snuggle, feed, rest, heal, and deeply nourish you and your little family. Each culture/lineage looks a bit different so I encourage you to explore and see what feels the most aligned for you and your family.

A book I couldn’t get my hands off was The First Forty Days: The Essential Art of Nourishing the New Mother by Heng Ou (Author), Amely Greeven (Author), Marisa Belger (Author). This book has everything you will need to know about postpartum. It’s quite fascinating and also very eye-opening just how far society has strayed from raising children as a community (this has a lot to do with postpartum depression/anxiety and disconnection). We were on our baby moon in L.A. and I was able to share space with a couple teachers while at Rama Institute who are moms to little ones. From there I ventured out to listen to more stories from women who kindly shared so openly with me about their journey. The journey still continues and I am always in awh of the transition from pregnancy to postpartum.

I began to see a thread appear while I was “information gathering” of what women really struggled with, what they needed help with, what worked really nicely, what they wish they would have known/done, and how they felt overall. I know each person has their own experience but there is a theme happening in the world right now with new mama’s and postpartum.

I feel as though this has given me a huge amount of support and internal validation of what I was feeling called intuitively to focus on for postpartum. I feel grateful that my intuition lead me to research, explore, and connect with women who have been initiated into motherhood.

I am not going to go into detail about postpartum itself but what we are doing to prepare and what postpartum will look like for us as we welcome in this new chapter. I highly recommend focusing on this area for any new mamas-to-be and talk with your health care/medical provider about what you can do to ease this transition. It is SO incredibly important for you, the health of your little one, your relationships, your self-connection, healing, and your mental and spiritual being. Beyond what you already feel.

What our first 40 days will look like for our growing family:

40 days of nesting. We will begin a sadhana (daily practice) to welcome in this new chapter.

  1. As little technology as possible. All of the frequencies that are roaming through the air now are very invasive to the new little beings body. This can stress the baby out along with aggravating their system right from the start. We will be keeping our wifi unplugged as much as possible, cell phones away from our bodies, little electronic sounds, and small doses of cell phone use. As an online entrepreneur and someone who works from their computer this is a huge shift for me. I am already preparing now.

  2. Warming and hearty food that isn’t “air/ether” aggravating. In Chinese medicine (also ayurveda**) it is thought that after childbirth the mother has excess air and ether from labor. They believe that postpartum depression/anxiety can be a result of these two elements being out of balance. To balance the elements (we have all elements within us) warming foods that are hearty and easy to digest are the most nourishing and healing to the mother’s body. This means steaming and mostly cooked foods. Limiting harder to digest or raw that could prompt more air/ether in the body. (lots of information about this and recipes in the book above). Also, limiting wind or very cool temperatures externally is recommended.

  3. Household support to alleviate tasks so we can bond and heal together as a family. Years ago the whole community and family would come together to support the women who had her baby. They would take over every task possible so she could simply bond, rest, feed, and heal from childbirth. Removing all tasks from her plate so she could simply integrate for the first while and regain her balance and energy before taking on all the tasks of the house, business/work, and other day to day items. We often see the exact opposite in today’s culture where women are left alone to do all the housework, care for the new baby, and heal her body…. and even go back to work immediately.

  4. Baby will stay within the mother's aura. Since the babies entire system hasn’t fully developed yet the baby and mom share the same aura. It is believed that this is why babies will have a fuss or become stressed/aggravated when the mother leaves beyond 6 feet from them. The aura can extend further than 6 feet depending on your practice but generally speaking keeping the baby close to mom is very soothing and comforting for the little one. This builds a strong and confident little one. Research is showing why it is recommended to have your baby as close to you as possible at all times (I share them on FB lots!). Imagine you’ve spent 10 months hearing your moms heartbeat, tummy sounds, breath, and voice…. then all of a sudden weeks/months later you're in a dark quiet room and no one is around. That would be terrifying for a little one. Keep those little ones close.

  5. Meditation + Kriyas for postpartum. Meditation and breathwork will most likely be the first two rituals to come in postpartum. Followed by kriyas that are safe for postpartum to balance and strengthen my entire 10 bodies post labor.

  6. Justin will be with us! This is very special because I know many men have to go back to work very soon after childbirth. We are blessed with the lifestyle and work that we do to have the ability where we can all be together for the first 40 days.

  7. Placenta encapsulation and tincture. I will be consuming the placenta post birth and have a tincture made to have in my cabinet for the future as well. If you're interested in the benefits I would read up on ingesting the placenta and speak with a doula/midwife/health care practitioner. This has shown to reduce postpartum blues, hormones imbalances, and assist the uterus back to its normal size and strength.

  8. Doula. We have a doula pre, during, and post birth. She will be with us during labor, in the birth and after when we are home with the little one. This added support and help will give us the comfort of asking someone who solely supports women and families with any questions we may have as new parents.

Now our plan is a little bit more intensive than these 8 points I shared. With supplement support and other tidbits that I feel empowered to bring into my life postpartum. If you are interested I am happy to share! Let me know in the comments below or pop me an email.

Overall, our intention is to create an environment for the little one to come into that is relaxing, filled with love, safe, supportive, and slow. There will be a lot of time for adventure, socialization, technology, business, and tasks in the future.

For now, we are choosing the slow life.

This isn’t for everyone and you may or may not resonate with anything we are doing here. But I urge you to become curious about what you are doing and WHY you are doing it in your postpartum chapter. A lot of time we make decisions based on what others outside us are saying is best but the deepest and most transformational answers come from within. Never underestimate your mama intuition. You are ALLOWED to do it however you feel and know that everything can pause. Nothing will crumble or run away from you- only old patterns.

Everything can wait. You’ve been welcomed into motherhood and your little one deserves the most intentionally designed transition and integration onto this planet just as much as you do. Don’t forget about yourself. Ask for help. Take care of your body, mind, and spirit. Allow yourself extra time before hopping back into all of the things. You will be thankful you did.

The thread; to pause and allow yourself space.

I am curious- are you a mama to be? I’d love to hear your postpartum journey or what you are doing for your postpartum care! Let's connect :D send me an email or comment below and share!

(photo taken at 34 weeks)

Artwork: https://designsbyduvetdays.com/shop/goddess-of-life/

(disclaimer: please consult a medical physician or health care practitioner before adding/removing/trying practices. I am not a doctor or advising you to do anything. Although, this is what has been working well for me! xxx)

Kundalini Practices during Pregnancy

Kundalini & Pregnancy

Many of you that follow my journey and work with me know that Kundalini is a foundation to everything I do. It was a practice that landed into my physical space while I was living out in Vancouver many years ago. At first I was wondering what did I get myself into and why are we moving like this. But the feeling after class was like nothing I have ever experienced. Then the unravelling happened and I began to study and dive deeper into the teachings from Yogi Bhajan.

It is a beautiful practice to strengthen the nervous system and balance the endocrine system along with many other benefits. But specifically with pregnancy this practice can prepare your body, assist with letting go of fear, elevate your babies consciousness, and guide you through a journey of honouring the maiden to welcome in the mother.

Pregnancy is an initiation process for a woman. It’s a process of walking into the unknown, surrendering who you once thought you were, and welcoming in a more radiant and alive version of yourself. Pregnancy is sacred, beautiful, and transformational.

Here are a couple practices I’ve loved so far.

  1. Kirtan Kriya: For New Beginnings and welcoming in the first trimester and the little cosmos. By stimulating each finger tip as your chant allows your body to balance the electromagnetic projection of the aura and welcome in NEW. I find this meditation practice to be very calming and grounding.

    Chant Meaning:

    SAA: Infinity, cosmos, beginning

    TAA: Life, existence

    NAA: Death, change, transformation

    MAA: Rebirth

  2. Adi Shakti Meditation: We are having a little boy and a divine teacher recommended this practice to us for the month 6/7 as Yogi Bhajan called this time in pregnancy as a “acid bath”. Meaning a mixture of hormones that would program the man to become more of a hunter and gather in the primitive times freezing his intuitive/creative side so he could focus on his mission to gather and hunt. When the mantra is chanted the man is thought to become more creative and intuitive in many aspects of his life. Creating an aquarian man with both his natural hunter and gather instincts along with being highly intuitive and honouring his creative side. When women who are pregnant with girls chant this mantra it is thought to enhance their primal power of shakti energy to be aware of her destiny.

    Mantra:

    Adi Shakti, Adi Shakti, Adi Shakti, Namo, Namo
    (I bow to the Primal Power)
    Sarb Shakti, Sarb Shakti, Sarb Shakti, Namo, Namo
    (I bow to the all-encompassing Power and Energy)
    Pritham Bhagvati, Pritham Bhagvati, Pritham Bhagvati, Namo, Namo
    (I bow to that which God creates)
    Kundalini Mata Shakti, Mata Shakti, Namo, Namo
    (I bow to the creative power of the Kundalini, the Divine Mother Power)

“Adi Shakti is the Divine Mother, the primal, protective, and generating energy in the cosmos. Let us call on the Divine Mother, the Infinite, the powerful. Her jantra (symbolic form) is the two swords of God to protect you, the center of your world. These are the two-edged swords of the being, the negative and the positive. This is her being. This is her presence.” 
–Yogi Bhajan 11/16/73

I am now 31 weeks pregnant today and will be embarking on meditations and practices that support and enhance the birth/labor of our little one. Working with my breath to move through the pressures and discomfort that will come with labor and embracing the energy that surrounds letting go and surrendering to this new chapter.

I’m curious if you practiced kundalini while you were pregnant? Are you pregnant and curious to see how kundalini can assist this journey for you and your little one? I’d love to connect at info@brittanyreid.ca or comment below!

xx,

B

(disclaimer: please consult a medical physician or health care practitioner before adding/removing/trying practices. I am not a doctor or advising you to do anything. Although, this is what has been working well for me! xxx)

The 3 Rituals that You May be Overlooking in Your Conception/Fertility Journey:

Conception/Fertility in my experience in more than balanced hormones and all of the “correct” metrics that come from blood panels. As we are energetic beings I believe there is more to CONCEIVING then just the right window of sexy time and happy hormones.

It’s been a journey one with loss, sadness, anger, fear, worry, confusion, joy, alignment, and the in between. My fertility journey left me wondering if I would ever be able to hold a baby full term. With the love and support from sisters around the globe I was blessed to share conversation about my journey. You can listen to them here:

https://www.stitcher.com/podcast/chloe-elgar/conscious-conversations-2/e/52403436?autoplay=true

https://sistershipcircle.com/episode-39/

https://sabrinariccio.com/blog/69-brittany-reid

If you are a womxn who has lost. Come on over sister. I am here, for you! Never hesitate to reach out. We must begin to change the conditioning of this topic. No more silence <3 You went through this because god/spirit/high power knows you can carry this with strength. And, that is powerful AF.

Our systems are very intelligent and know what they need. But often times we avoid, forget to listen, or simply haven’t built the awareness to see and hear the queues our bodies are speaking to us.

Being 23 weeks pregnant right now with a little dude on the way I was reflecting to what happened since my last miscarriage in July 2018. I was brought into a deeper space of healing, womb wisdom, and energetic healing that I didn’t know was waiting for me. Below I share the 3 rituals/tools that I believe gave me the space to be able to hold this little boy and welcome him into the world in late August! We are beyond blessed to be on this journey and I am excited to share more. Let’s dive in!

The 3 Rituals that You May be Overlooking in Your Conception/Fertility Journey:

Ancestral Healing.

Womxn carry 7 generations in their wombs. We carry the lineages of all of the womxn that came before us in our lineage. This means the pain, suffering, anxiety, worries, love, passion, courage, conditioning, and habits. ALL OF IT! We also carry all of the sexual energy of partners we’ve been with in the womb- unless you’ve consciously cut the cords and clear that up! Ancestral healing is one of the greatest areas I found myself discovering and understanding more of in a deeper way. This also greatly impacts your business, partnerships, self connection, and understanding of your power. Our womb is the SPACE that conception happens in and will carry the baby until it arrives earth side. What are you holding onto that isn’t yours that is blocking your babes from coming through? Is there sexual trauma from someone you’ve been with that needs clearing. When you’re intimate with someone all of their karma/energy goes into your space. That space needs clearing darling. You don’t need to carry someone’s burdens and lessons in your divine portal!

Curious about ancestral healing… dive into learning about this topic more. See if someone comes through that you’d like to work with. Send me a message and I’ll link you up with a few people that clear, support, and assist with ancestral healing.

Yoni Steaming.

An ancient practice that has been used in Africa, South America, Asia for many years. Essentially you sit over a pot of steam that carries certain herbs that cleanse, nourish, and heal your sacred space. This is said to release emotional, physical, and spiritual traumas/stagnation that are occurring in your sacred space, the womb! Everything from clearing the energy to strengthen the uterus walls. Ladies, this is a practice that you can bring in if you experience PMS, pain, or irregular moon cycles. As, PMS symptoms and irregular moon cycles are a sign of imbalance happening in the body. Therefore, to conceive you will want to regulate and balance your system before opening up the space to conceive.

Yoni steaming more than sitting on a pot of steaming herbs. It’s a way for you to connect back into your divine feminine and build a intimate relationship with her.


When this little boy comes earth side in August I will return to this practice once my physical healing of birth has taken place and I am okay to begin practices again. I do greatly miss this regular practice.

Forgiveness

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I feel everything in life comes back to forgiveness. Having trouble with something? Something isn’t going the way you thought it would? FORGIVENESS seems to be the common thread. Forgiveness of self, others, and the experience we are or have been part of. I began a journey of massive forgiveness with my entire life. Every experience, person, place, feeling… all of it! But I didn’t just leave it at I forgive. That meant surrendering all of the pain, suffering, shame, guilt, fear, and worry that came with those experiences. Then, taking courage steps after. No matter what happened before, I would reach out. I would show up and share space even if it was uncomfortable. I would write letters. I would express the emotions that came up in a safe space. I gave myself permission to let go and not carry what experiences I’ve witnessed in my past. Mindset Tip: YOU ARE NOT YOUR EXPERIENCES! YOU ARE YOU, WHOLE AND COMPLETE! No matter how traumatic or ‘easy’ your life was like leading up today. IT IS NOT YOU! You are you and you have a choice to operate from a place of being the administrator of your own life/actions or you can blame and allow your the past run your life and future actions.

Forgiveness is still a theme in my life- I don’t think forgiveness ever stops.. How can I forgive and let go? What is one action I can take to forgive and show up as the most mature, alive, and vibrant womxn as possible. You can easily say I forgive you…. but that’s not true forgiveness work. True forgiveness work is doing the uncomfortable work no matter how painful or how long it takes. Forgiveness can not be rushed.

Alongside this work my day to day looked a lot like this:

  • Seed Cycling (SOOOOO POWERFUL! HIGHLY RECOMMEND IT)

  • Hormone Balancing Foods- avoiding all highly inflammatory foods

  • Stress Reduction and Rest- meditation, breath work, and nature!

  • Kundalini, Kundalini, Kundalini, and more Kundalini

  • Deeply connecting back to my divine feminine and allowing myself to express the journey and not be silenced anymore.

I am not sure if these will resonate with you although my wish for you is to find what works and always be guided to surrender to what you’re attaching onto and ALLOW. Pregnancy is all about allowing. When we allow and let go- we will conceive. Many women will say when they let go, it all happened! And, quickly ;) !

Happy journeying to conceiving and I’d love to hear from you. What are your thoughts? Any takeaways? Or, what has been your experience with conception?

Everything in life gives us the exact medicine if we are willing to listen closely.

Much love,

B.

See you in August Little Dude!

DISCLAIMER: This is based off my personal experience and exploration into my womb journey. I advise you speak with your doctor or health care practitioner before beginning or changing any treatment/protocols you are occuring on/trying.